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Discussion Topic: Viagra didn't work for me
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foxy22 |
01-07-2007 @ 4:18 AM
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Hi all.
I got a prescription from the doc and it was 4 x 25mg viagra which can be bought 3 more times off the same prescription. I am 47, pretty healthy, smoker since 16, under 13 stone and 5' 11".
I took one tablet today and it didn't seem to do anything for me. Took another tablet 3 hours later, still nothing. I was with a female who didn't have a problem getting me erect with her hand, but I rarely have that problem, so I don't know how much of that was me or viagra. When it came to intercourse, it was fine for a little while but then I lost it.
Over the course of my life, I've had plenty of successful sexual encounters, but many of these type of dreaded encounters too. I was hoping viagra would override this. I was hoping it would give me a rock hard erection which it kind of did (but not like the ones I get in the morning) for a good amount of time and STAY erect. I don't have a problem at all in private masturbation, so I don't believe it's physical. I think it comes down to what I term as 'erection anxiety' rather than performance anxiety, unless they're the same thing. Only really seems to affect me when I know intercourse is about to happen, rather than oral or hand stimulation. I keep saying to myself " Here we go. Will I be able to maintain this erection for penetration " and a lot of the time I don't.
Using condoms doesn't help, and I always worry about that moment when I'm going to tear one open and put it on because of fear of losing the erection. So it seems to be psychological fear or worry, and this has plagued me ever since I first had intercourse. I didn't have intercourse till I was about 25 for fear of 'the main act'. So, am I wasting my time with pills like viagra? Does it simply not override mental issues connected with sex? Do I need to up my dosage to bulldoze my way through any anxiety problems? TIA
since posting this, I found this which says that psychological problems respond the best.
" What Types of Erectile Dysfunction Are Most Easily Treated With Viagra?
Men whose erectile dysfunction is psychologically based fare best. Among that group, 91% were able to have sex one or more times during treatment."
This message was edited by Administrator on 1-7-07 @ 9:16 AM
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01-08-2007 @ 9:00 AM
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Are you a worrying type of person generally?
I don't have a problem at all in private masturbation, so I don't believe it's physical. If that is the case then it seems definitltey not to be a physical issue but a pyschological issue.
How long have you been with your partner and what sort of relationship do you have?
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01-08-2007 @ 9:01 AM
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The other thing to remeber is that Viagra is not an aphrodisiac - ie you need to make it work for you as well...
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foxy22 |
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01-08-2007 @ 3:54 PM
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Yes, I guess I've always been a bit of a worrier and one that fears failure in things. I often get that slightly doomed feeling that something I need to be successful won't be, not just sex. I'm not in a relationship and haven't been for ages. I sort of stopped bothering with girlfriends AND intercourse a few years ago because I always got bored and never commited. But also because I had some experiences of not being able to have intercourse for whatever reason. So that put me off going through more frustration and embarrassment until this weekend. I'm fine with other sexual activities, but with intercourse, perhaps I'm putting it on a pedestal that always seems like something I can't do, even though I have had good intercourse before. I'm into certain fetishes which I won't divulge, but I seem to have taken more of an interest in those for a few years. I'm starting to wonder if they have reduced my interest in intercourse. When I look at porn, I tend to focus more on images and videos of fetish and normal oral sex more than images and videos of intercourse. Yet I do still want to be able to just meet a girl and not have a problem getting it on for normal intercourse. Recently I hired a couple of girls. And like I was saying earlier, it was fine for a bit but then I lost it. Maybe I just can't do casual intercourse? Or maybe there is a way that I CAN have casual sex? I've had this problem with regular GF's too, only, it's usually fine after I've been with them for a while.
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foxy22 |
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01-11-2007 @ 12:34 PM
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Well with all due respect, I haven't been told anything I don't know yet and it doesn't look like anyone is really reading this forum. So I still have no real answers whether to up the dosage, try something else, or forget about ED pills. Can anyone tell me?
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01-11-2007 @ 9:49 PM
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You're wasting your time on viagra IF you still have those major fears in the back of your head.
You may well be willing, but as soon as that little thought enters your head of tearing the condom, making her pregnant, or that you're going to put on a poor show, no amount of viagra is going to work.
There's nothing wrong with you, you've just got to relax!
Honestly I used to have the same problem when I was first starting out with sex, all the same worries. You aren't going to have or keep an erection unless you relax and stop worrying.
There's no sure fire way of relaxing, apart from knowing your fears aren't worth having. Take the viagra, want to have sex, and just focus on the fact you've got a solid erection that's going to show the woman what it feels like to be done by a real man. Get off on how damn good your cock looks and just go for it and don't think about anything else. She'll enjoy it, and that'll just spur you on.
You need a good experience to focus on rather than the bad ones which you seem to be.
It's also worth noting though that if you're going to rely on viagra and you end up in a relationship with a woman who you've always used viagra with, you're setting yourself up for a fall: you might have gotten over your anxiety WITH the viagra, take it away and you might still have it.
I'd use the viagra for casual sex. But again, you have to want sex and put the fear to the side, otherwise there's no point.
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foxy22 |
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01-12-2007 @ 1:09 PM
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Thanks for your reply, djadam. That's what I was thinking. That viagra does not in fact sort out head f*cks as this quote below would suggest.
"What Types of Erectile Dysfunction Are Most Easily Treated With Viagra?
Men whose erectile dysfunction is psychologically based fare best. Among that group, 91% were able to have sex one or more times during treatment."
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Lamar |
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01-12-2007 @ 2:42 PM
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do you tend to worry about other things as well in life>?
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Lamar |
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01-12-2007 @ 2:43 PM
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do you tend to worry about other things as well in life>?
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01-15-2007 @ 11:34 AM
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What are the strongest sides effects people have experienced om these forums using Viagra?
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