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Discussion Topic: Using Cialis etc as a kickstart
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orangesky |
04-06-2006 @ 6:38 PM
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Joined: Apr 2006
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Hi guys,
I have some erection troubles that I'm sure are due to nerves. I get erections at night time and can masturbate normally. After some bad experiences, I spend my whole time during foreplay thinking "get an erection, get an erection, get an erection" which obviously leads to the exact opposite.
Do you think that using Cialis a few times would give me back the confidence that I'm missing? Would it let me know that I can perform and satisfy a woman? Would it then be easy to come off it and let nature take its course? I'd love to take it a few times, lose my nerves and then give up the drug. I'm slightly concerned that I may instead become dependant on drugs which are expensive and perhaps not healthy in the long term.
I know I can perfom, I just need to sort out my head. Has anyone else had any luck doing this?
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LL64 |
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04-07-2006 @ 11:09 AM
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Are you normally an up-tight kind of person? it is normal to feel a little apprehensive with a new partner becasue you dont want to dissapoint etc but the thing is that when you feel more relaxed and comfortable then I am sure eveything will be just right.
With reagrds to Cialis and these other drugs then of course they will act twofold: by acting like a placebo, and secondly, they will increase blood flow thus ensuring an erection. It seems to me that it will definitely work for you.
Have you just started seeing this new partner or?
Remember that these viagra cialis drugs etc have only been around a few years - what used to happen before in the olden days? Have a think about it and if you feel that it will aid your confidence then i see no harm in it.
LAstly remember that if your (new partner) judges you on one or two not-so-good sexual experiences then she is showing her lack of depth. Everyone male or female have insecurities - maybe she is worried that you will notice her cellulite or her this or her that etc etc etc - we ALL have insecurities but thats why need each other to sort them out.
See how it goes dont think about it just go with the flow thats what we humans - in this case - men - have been doing for approximately 100 million years. It is as natural as eating food or growing hair - it happens just dont let anyone put you off....is she starts to make you feel uncomfortable then there are another 2.6 billion females that can replace her.
good luck pal. (I have studied placebo effects on patients when i was a student hence my knowledge on the subject)
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blackherring |
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04-12-2006 @ 12:55 PM
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I think a lot depends on how old you are. What you say about trying to think yourself hard is pretty age-independent in my experience, and if you aren't "old" then there are probably lots of cheaper ways to get your kickstart (maybe by talking to your partner about it rather than posting here?). But beyond a certain age... things do tend to cool off a bit, and some chemical help does seem to make a welcome difference. Somehow it doesn't strike me that you have got there yet!
Where you're at is historically classic - if that's any comfort to you. Lots of rhinoceroses would still have their horns if we men didn't have* problems like this. A tab or two of Cialis seems more environmentally sound...
* Or think we have - you'll find a way to crack it!
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OneTwelve |
05-03-2006 @ 1:33 PM
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Hi I actually had the same problem and that's why I came to this website. I have absolutely no problem on my own but after having similar experiences to you I came here and made sure it wouldnt happen again.
I tried VIAGRA and it did the trick. I'm not at all feeling dependent on them but they did help get over the initial nerves and I now have a healthy sex life.
Viagra is expensive though but does work! I am thinking of trying 10mg Cialis as I hear the effect lasts longer... so might work out better value.
As a side note: Some people say that the minimum dosages (50mg Viagra) and 10 mg Cialis are more than enough... but I started with the full 100mg viagra just to be sure.
FYI i'm a healthy, 24yo professional that works out -just not so confident due to lack of experience. Don;t worry about dependency... anyway, it's far too expensive for that!
PS- my ukmedix order arrived the next day -completely unexpected such a fast service!
good luck
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tinytim |
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10-29-2007 @ 10:14 AM
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Joined: Oct 2007
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I know this quite an old posting but I wanted to see whether you had tried this approach orangesky, and whether it had worked for you?
I get exactly the same trouble, especially if I use condoms - in fact, that really stalls it completely (not a good thing if you want to practice safe sex with someone you've just met on a night out or a new girlfriend)
No amount of 'men have been doing this for millions of years' or 'just go with the flow' helps in this situation - it just goes to make you feel even more inadequate. I'm a laid back person (everyone says so), but the mixture of excitement and nerves when I get naked with a new girl just makes my erection fail. You can't discuss it with a new partner either, you're trying to chat them up, not tell them how you can't get an erection!!!!!
I personally find in this situation that a LITTLE alcohol helps - as it relaxes you and makes you focus on the girl more, and not what's happening in your own department. Even then tho - get the rubbers out and you may find your erection is erased.
So, did it help? is it worth forking out the cash on this stuff?
Thanks
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Ash1 |
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11-15-2007 @ 2:28 PM
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Orangesky I had EXACTLY the same issues as you. And tinytim i know exactly what you mean about it being sometimes ok until the dreaded problem of maintaining the erection to get the condom on.
So I went to the doctor and he prescribed 10 mg Cialis. I got 4 tablets on prescription - for £6.95 (btw does anybody know how long i can keep getting it on prescription?) After being very nervous about it just like you guys I took it last night. I found it took about two hours to work but I foolishly ate beforehand (we were on a date!) But the good news is it did work - after a couple of false starts. There was defintely the placebo effect - I did feel less worried that I was going to fail this time. But the quality of erection was definitely better and I was much more in control of when I came (maybe because I didn't need as much stimulation to begin having sex as usual?). Also I found the "morning glory" was was stronger than normal as well which made me confident I could go again in the morning - unfortunatley there was no time though so I couldn't say for certain.
Like you guys I was worried about the side effects(the only ones I can report are a small throb in my head - not really a headache - and feeling a little muggy)and whether I would always need this medication to have sex. But my view is life is short and if you're not going to have sex then you're missing out on a big aspect of it - especially when the solution is pretty safe I think. I would be interested to hear if people, after having my experience, stopped using the medication or whther they felt that they would be on it for ever now?
To calm your worries I would go to the doctor - mine was really lovely about it. He/she will take ur blood pressure, check ur urine for diabetes and have a look at ur penis and the area around it. If you can't bear the thought of this then I would just buy it at the normal price - but to be honest it helped me going to the doctor because it was good to talk about it out loud and he calmed me about the side effects.
By the way I'm about to become 38 and I definitely feel that age has a big part to play. Hope this helps.
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