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Discussion Topic: Rachel's Diary
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Macduff |
11-29-2007 @ 12:14 PM
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Well here's the update from the docs...
Doctor agrees that i've lost 4kg this month, which I think is right cos I reckon it's 9lbs. He seems happy with this and has given me another month. He's also taken me off the diclofenic and put me on codiene for the arthritis in the knee. I did ask if codiene and reds work together and he (and pharmacist) seem to think they're OK.
Now, I'll ask the experts.... You Lot! How about Reds and Codiene?
Blood Pressure is up - it was 158/101, then taken twice more and finished up at 137/94
The nurse wants to monitor me weekly, and has agreed that i can ring in my BP next week after giving blood.
I know that the reds can raise the BP, but work is a bit manic too so I'm hoping that it's the stress that's killing me not the reds lol
Rachel x
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12-03-2007 @ 4:52 PM
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Monday afternoon
Well, it's been a weird weekend and I'm still not sure what to do next?
Sunday afternoon Phil suggested an hour in the pub (great plan) and I was all ready for getting changed when my brother rang me.
My mom and dad had gotten into some sort of arguement and he'd got in the car and left! She's been down for a while but was ranting that this time it's over and she's not having him back. My brother was at a loss really cos he didn't know where dad was but he was staying with mom for the minute. i rang my dad and asked him to come to our house (I live 30 miles away from my family) but he said no that he didn't want to get anyone else involved.
I drove over to my parents' house and stayed with my mom. I hadn't even got there when she rang me to tell me to stay away, (my voicemail took the message as there's no signal on the Yorkshire Moors!)
The atmosphere was awful and she was sat there crying and saying that she's fine and we could all leave her.
I stayed the night, she had something to eat - we opened and finished a tub of pringles betweend us - and last night she seemed better - I know that four hours isn't going to cure a depression that's been setting in for years, but she did seem calmer.
This morning she was as bad as last night. I asked her if she wanted to come and stay with us for a couple of days but she said that she's going nowhere as she'll never get back in. She won't eat, she won't take her tablets and she just wants to sit in silence. My brother came round this morning and suggested the doctors but she lost it with him and stormed off to bed.
I saw her doctor and explained what's going on, but he told me that unless she wants help (or is so bad that she has to be sectioned) there's nothing we can do - i expected him to say that but i just wanted him to know that we're all really worried about her just in case she will go and see him.
My dad is going to go home tonight, but he's worried - she launched the sunday dinner at him yesterday and the front garden was covered in broken crockery and roast pork!
I've come home tonight as i have to go to work tomorrow (yes i could take some time off but i don't want to push her and risk falling out with her).
I'm worried for both of them but at least now it's down on paper i feel better about it.
I'm going to ring dad tomorrow to see how things are. I've told him that he can stay here, and i know he can stay with my brother.
I'm lying, cos I don't feel better for sharing, I feel like s**t and there's not a bloody thing i can do about except be there for a dad who is at a loss and a mother who can't/won't accept help
Rachel x
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12-03-2007 @ 5:36 PM
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RAchel
so happy for you keep taking photos so we can see you montrage dont think i spelt it right but anyway you have done great and keep at it.
Really pleased for you.
love niyra x
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12-04-2007 @ 8:38 AM
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Macduff all i can say is if your mum wont accept any help at the moment just make sure she knows that you love her and that you are there when she does need you.. How are things with your parents today? I hope that they can work things out. Dont really know what else i can say. X
DEBZ
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12-04-2007 @ 12:29 PM
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oh what a suituation to be in but i do know from personal experiance that until your mom wants that help she will not take it and will see efforts to give it to her as going against
depression has no reason it has no controll it is all consuming and frightening it makes little things seem like mountains and can take the meaning out of your life quite quickly all i can suggest is that you watch her keep rining her try and get her to do little things to get back into a routine then when she is seeing things a little better tell her hoe bad it was and see will she accept help there are sites to help the relations of depression suffers go to one they really do help
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12-04-2007 @ 5:14 PM
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Hows things today? keep your chin up hun xxx
My Weight Chart:
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Macduff |
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12-04-2007 @ 8:40 PM
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Things seem to be better - last night she didn't lock my out of the house, and after some reverse psychology she is is willing to go out with him tomorrow night!
She's still down, but my brother says that today was better and that she seemed like herself being a miserable bugger (I know that sounds weird, but it is an improvement). She's cooked tea for my dad and has tidied up a bit. I really hope that this is a good thing cos we think she's binned my dad's tablets and we have no idea if she's likely to take all hers in one go.
I've told my dad that I'll ring him tomorrow and see how things are tonight. he doesn't want me to ring in the evening in case it's bad at home and he doesn't want mom to think we're plotting behind her back.
We're going over on Saturday on the pretense of Xmas shopping - will try to get her out of the house for an hour at least.
Work's a nightmare cos none of us can concentrate (me, dad, brother, even Phil), but we're all doing the best to support each other and the pair of them.
Bloody parents, can't live with them and apparently can't lock them in a cupboard
Rachel x
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12-04-2007 @ 8:50 PM
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hi rachel. what a week eh! at what point do the rolls reverse? my mum still treats me like i'm 15 lol
you cld do without the stress esp at this time of the year. hope things settle down for you, it sure is a worry,i'd still try that cupboard thing all the same!!!!!
sharon N I
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12-05-2007 @ 7:12 PM
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Well things have taken a complete 180 degree turnaround!
Last night mom told dad all her problems (4 hours of it's all your fault) - which he took without saying anything. Then today my mom rang me at work and we talked for half an hour (well mainly she talked and I ummed and OK'd). She still blames dad for everything and won't see the doctor but at least she's not sat crying. It is dad's Xmas do tonight, and although she doesn't want to go i suggested a long soak in the bath and a couple of hours sleep... see how you feel afterwards kind of thing.
Well, I rang after work - which is what I usually do - and she was like a different woman altogether. We joked about something and nothing and she was getting ready to go out with Dad. I know that my dad is walking on eggshells with her and watching everything he says / does - but he's willing to do that.
I've promised to ring her tomorrow to see how it went, and although she's still not up for going out on Saturday we are going over in the hope that this is the first step towards feeling better.
Only time will tell, and I didn't have to use the cupboard threat 
I'll keep you posted!
Rachel x
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12-06-2007 @ 1:14 PM
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Thursday 5th December
As you know, it's been a hell of a week for my family, but hopefully things are now starting to pick up. Spoke to mom today and she sounded a million times better than last night. I just hope this is the first step to her being back on track and feeling good about herself and life in general.
I've lost 2 and a half this week, which I'm pleased about, but to be honest it wouldn't have mattered whether I'd lost or gained.
Anyway, I've had some news today which I'm gonna share... my brother lives in Italy (company he works for is based there so he moved) and he's met a lovely girl - although we've not met her yet.
He e-mailed me today and told me he's going to book his wedding for next year - hopefully September! I told mom and she's really pleased, you could hear the change in her voice, so we're gonna start saving up.
Also, next October is my mom's 40th wedding (yes, I think that'll happen now!), and my 10th so it's gonna be a busy few weeks next autumn.
I even mentioned shopping on Saturday and she didn't say she wouldn't go (OK she didn't say she would either, but at least it wasn't NO!) I just hope that this is the start of her feeling better about herself and life in general?!
Life's not so bad after all - ask my dad
Rachel x
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