Posted By Discussion Topic: Going on to E.D meds   TerryM 05-12-2010 @ 5:34 PM                           reply Member Joined: Sep 2009 I have been on propecia for a good while now and have always had troubles in the bedroom, even before i was on propecia.   I have never been able to have a decent relationship with a woman and have only just met someone that i think could be long term. Should I tell her that I may have ed problems or should i just keep it to myself and start taking Viagra or Cialis? I am not sure if i should be so honest so early in the relationship. Any help would be appreciated, T bb22 05-12-2010 @ 10:01 PM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 If you haven't actually got to the bedroom stage yet, then I think it's inevitable that she's going to find out when you do. The problem is Terry, if you're this worried about it now, by the time it comes to actually having sex the pressure is going to have built up so much, I bet you'll be to terrified to be able to perform anyway. She's going to realise you've got ED at some point. I get that it's embarrassing to discuss it - I've been there myself and very recently in fact, but my issue is with premature ejaculation (thank God theyve brought out Priligy) - but its inevitably going to be a topic. You can't ignore it. So why don't you be really romantic with her, tell her how you feel about her, and that it's something you want to sort out with meds, for her to be satisfied. If shes as into you as you are to her, I reckon she'll be flattered. Mike78 05-13-2010 @ 12:02 PM                           reply Member Joined: Sep 2009 I think if she will either be great about it and be in to you so will love the fact that you want to be at your best, or she will not be understanding and therefore not worth your time. I think deep down you will know if she is worth being honest to. Mike squeamish 05-13-2010 @ 10:01 PM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 This is a really common question I think (not to undermine yours at all terry!) but loads of guys are terrified of telling their partners they cant do it au naturel. thing is, most women are so understanding, like in a realm we guys cant possibly imagine. we're so blinded by our ego and - equally, ironically - our insecurities, that we think they'll judge us. But men and women are different thank god. So we don't mind if their arse is a little big (even though they think we think its huuuuge) and they don't mind if we need to use meds to do the business. as long as we show them attention, prove we love them, and ultimately satisfy them, then theyre happy. hoep that gives you some peace of mind terry. pod17 05-19-2010 @ 9:45 AM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 I was in exactly the same position as you Terry - five months ago. I didn't know whether to tell my girlfriend I'd started taking Cialis. I couldn't decide whether a) it wasnt her business anyway b) it might put her off if she knew c) it was lying if I didn't. Anyway I went with c) and she was fine about it. But - call me selfish - I was most worried about how it was going to affect me. I was just so desperate for something to work. It worked so well, that I dumped her and wanted to start shagging around a bit. That didn't last long though and now we're back together. But she knows about it. Thing is, all the other perks of going out with me keep her keen anyway! TerryM 05-19-2010 @ 11:22 AM                           reply Member Joined: Sep 2009 out of interest, why did she call you selfish? Selfish for not telling her?? pod17 05-19-2010 @ 6:43 PM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 No - I meant others reading the post might call me selfish - but I was more concerned about me and the success the med was going to have, than what she thought about it. If she hadnt liked it I would have taken it anyway. If it had put her off, or she'd made any jokes, I would have dumped her. tommy32 05-20-2010 @ 6:54 PM                           reply Member Joined: Sep 2009 i see what you're saying, i remembered when you posted.  You were very honest about how you felt and it's pretty realistic.  Glad all is good now. pod17 05-24-2010 @ 9:40 PM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 Well if we can't be honest on this site then what's the point? I think its great to use this forum to talk about the relationship aspect too. Taking ED meds is one thing, but there are two of you in the situation after all. And sometimes the situation is delicate and you need another opinion. Between us all I'd say we've probably had the gamut of experiences! cheeky55 05-25-2010 @ 10:24 AM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 ivebeen taking cialis and viagra (though mostly cialis) for a good while now. i havent had a realy long term relationship yet, which is the way i want it right now. so i never tell the girl im sleeping with. if she asked id probably lie - but it doesnt exactly come up in conversation anyway. i dont need to know if they wax or shave, use hairspray or what friggin bra size they are! so why should it be their business what i do to keep myself looking and feeling confident?