Posted By Discussion Topic: no ejaculation during sex   TonyJamaica 01-12-2011 @ 2:04 PM                           reply Member Joined: Apr 2008 I cannot ejaculate during sex, but when I masturbate everything seems to be pretty normal. What could it be?  Something must be totally wrong.  Please some advice Thanks. pod17 07-29-2011 @ 2:08 AM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 I think delayed ejaculation is mostly psychological - which is good and bad news right? But if its works during masturbation that its highly likely in your case mate. If you look at it one way its an advantage - that youre able to last so long. Better than having PE, I'd say - but I sympathise with you because it must be very frustrating. Do you have a medical condition, such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or allergies? Are you taking medications for these or for anxiety or depression? Sometimes medications to treat these conditions have side effects that result in delayed ejaculation. Go and talk to your doc about it I'd say Cheers P zeb 07-29-2011 @ 2:23 AM                           reply Member Joined: Jul 2011 U should prob see a sex therapist. But in the meantime these steps might help buddy: Step 1 The resolution begins with you talking with your partner about your concerns and admitting that it's a problem. It's amazing how frequently a man who has not ejaculated with his partner for years has somehow convinced her, and even himself, that the status quo is just fine. Orgasm may not be everything -- but it does matter. Step 2 After acknowledging and discussing the situation, the next major step is just as critical, and can be just as embarrassing -- masturbating to ejaculation with your partner present (which, as noted above, is possible in the vast majority of non-medical cases). After you are successful with that the rest is easy. Step 3 Once you can relax enough to ejaculate with her present, simply substitute her hand for yours (i.e., allowing someone else to have that control). Step 4 The next stage involves gradually ejaculating closer and closer to the vaginal opening. Step 5 Finally, when you are comfortable with this and ready for the final stage tell your partner to pick a time, without telling you, and wait until you are very close to orgasm then she should insert the penis and let nature take its course. pod17 07-29-2011 @ 2:27 AM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 Good tips! I'd also add to that not to masturbate without your partner because the more you ejaculate the lower your urgency and need becomes... Wait and the rewards will be sweet! Cheers P zeb 07-29-2011 @ 2:33 AM                           reply Member Joined: Jul 2011 AND yknow what? It could also be because of resentment if your woman is a dominant female type, if yousee her as a threat to your virility. Also, if its an affair youre having then youre adding in feelings of guilt, shame or sin whichll also cause probs. People can often come with their wives but not with the woman on the side. Perhaps u need to see a shrink? pod17 07-29-2011 @ 5:46 PM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2010 Why don't you try the seminal retention technique on the other post?! Try orgasming alone without thinking it needs to be paired with ejaculation. Sounds like you're half way there. This may amount to taking the proverbial rabbit out of a hat - but give it a shot, and let us know how you go! RockHard 08-10-2011 @ 9:45 PM                           reply Member Joined: Jul 2011 It sounds like performance anxiety. The enemy of an erection is adrenaline/stress. If you get scared you won't have an erection, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I was worried when I took Cialis that I wasn't going to get aroused - I really had to push it out of my mind and focus on my partner, and it worked.