Posted By Discussion Topic: hi am new here and worried i have an issue...   suffolklad2009 01-01-2009 @ 5:10 PM                           reply Member Joined: Jan 2009 Hi I am 32 years old and had a wife i had no issues at all with sexually (at 1st we had a crazy sex life) however over time it dropped off and then we split up. since then i have found when with women after initially having no issues getting interested i just seem to go off the boil at the most inopportune moment. I am fairly sure this is mental rather than physical as i have no issues sorting myself out when alone (indeed i still have a very high sex drive) however it is very embarrassing. To make matters worse The last girl i was potentially serious with suggested it was because i wasn't attracted to her, and said i made her feel ugly, and ultimately finished with me. I have recently met someone else and am nuts about her, however it is getting close to the time again, and am terrified something like that may happen again, and i do NOT want to blow it. i went to the docs yesterday with an unrelated issue and planned to ask about viagra, however bugger me if my normal GP wasn't there, it was a woman, and stupid i know but i bottled out of asking. i guess i will need to go again, however i was wondering, do the blue pills in pub vending machines do anything at all? i know i should probably discuss this with my lady friend, and i know all the clichés that if she likes me she will be supportive, but have already lost 1 person over this, and i do not plan to lose another, esp when am hoping its a very temporary thing once i get my confidence back (or is it normal for people with this problem to have no problems when alone?). I did wonder if it was a fitness thing, but in 12 months have lost over 20kgs in weight and am very active running 15 miles a week and very sporty.  I am fitter now than any time since i was at uni but i worry this hasn't helped.. your thought please. edit... oh yes (and sorry to ramble) is it easy to get these on the NHS? i seem to remember them being expensive and do not really want to have to go through my life story with the do persuading him i need them! Many thanks This message was edited by suffolklad2009 on 1-1-09 @ 5:14 PM