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Discussion Topic: where is everyone?
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judith |
03-15-2010 @ 8:46 AM
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hello
Ladies...Ive not been online for a while and since coming back in this morning, nobody has posted anything!
Is everybody doing ok?
Im doing well, really starting to feel more normal again, so think the patches are starting to take effect!
I even felt a twinge of passion over the weekend, not enough to do anything about, but there was definatley something there!
judith
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Isabella1@ |
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03-15-2010 @ 10:57 AM
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Hey Judith,
so great that you are doing well. That that twinge of passion and run with it! you never know getting into a passionate entanglement could open you up even more.
I have been well but my hormones are all over the place so sorting them out slowly!
Issy x
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judith |
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03-15-2010 @ 7:05 PM
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hello
Hi Issy, I like your way of thinking, although its been such a long time, Im a little shy to instigate anything! I had such a romantic evening with my partner the other night, we had some kissing and small bits but it didnt lead to anything as I think he felt he didnt want to pressure me or stress me out. But I think I ended up stressing myself out thinking that I would be no good etc!
Why are your hormones all over the place? Is the patch not working for you?
judith
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Oli |
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03-15-2010 @ 7:43 PM
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Hi Judith, I agree with Issy, you need to run with it if you are feeling at all in the mood. As you know, if you start stressing out and thinking too much about the act itself it wont happen. Stress in women and men with no hormonal problems can cause loss of interest in sex, so you could be doubly disadvantaging yourself. You need to work out a plan with your partner. May be you could both go to some counselling if it's been a long time and you've lost your confidence in sex. As mentioned before, I am wondering if you are also on estrogen patches, if not and your estrogen levels are also low, you will need to get some estrogen into your system as well - one works with the other. The last time we spoke, you were getting your testosterone and estrogen measurements written down so you could let us all know what they are. I would be interested to know these as I can tell you if your levels are low etc. if you let me know what measurement units they used. When I said that it could take 3 months for tesosterone to work, it can also take a week or so. It depends on the person and how they process the testosterone, so don't think yoursef into having to wait another two months. I came off it for a month, my levels went down to only 0.04, went back on it and feeling fine again within only two weeks. Good luck.
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judith |
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03-16-2010 @ 11:56 AM
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hello
Oli - I have had my blood tests done and just waiting on results...as soon as I have them, will let you know. I chatted with the nurse and she said she thinks I will need to have an oestrogen patch as well. So I think your right.
With regards to the counselling, Im sure that will help but not sure I really want to sit in front of somebody strange and talk face to face about my issues. Its easier over the computer, as nobody can see how embarrassed I am!
judith
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Isabella1@ |
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03-16-2010 @ 1:15 PM
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hi there Judith,
I am at the beginning stages of menopause, my periods are erratic so bleeding is erratic. But keeping positive.
With regards to the councellor I can imagine it would be daunting at first but it's good to talk and get out your worries... out loud.
I hope that you get over your nerves, you will look back and wonder what the problem ever was!
Anyway keep us posted on how you are doing!
Issy x
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Oli |
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03-16-2010 @ 6:34 PM
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Yes keep positive Judith. Think I remember one course of action a therapist recomnended, which I read about, not put into practice, was the couple were not allowed to touch each other. That's no kissing, cuddling, no foreplay, no sex act, no use of sex toys. They had to refrain like this for a fortnight. Think they were sleeping in the same bed though. Then after the fortnight was up, they were all over each other like a rash. Think it was a combination of being forbidden to do it and abstaining. But what do I know!
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judith |
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03-17-2010 @ 4:40 PM
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hello
That sounds like an interesting way of trying to get some passion ignited! I might suggest that with my partner, although the poor man has been so patient with me already and I really feel bad for not feeling ready yet. I think thats what its got more to do with, Ive not been with any other man since my husband and we were married for 29 years! So its going to be daunting regardless I think!
But I will persevere and conquer my fears!
Thanks ladies
judith
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