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Discussion Topic: Premature Ejaculation
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AstonMartin |
02-22-2006 @ 11:13 PM
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I have a boyfriend and we have been together on and off for 2 years and I hate to say it but his premature ejaculation is still a big problem. We've talked about it and he seems to just want to change the subject. I know this sounds a little odd but could he be gay? I've heard so many things about men who get married and don't come out for years if at all. I mean he doesn't relate to men and since I've known him he only has girlfriends, really he only realtes to women. He has efemmit mannerisms to but not to a huge degree and he has been serious approached and hit on by gay men. I've tried to dissucss this with him and he get incredibley angry now becuase I think I'm just convinced and I bug the crap out of him. He is just p*ssed that I would even think that about him and he's says if he was gay he would go be gay but why am I not convinced. What do I do? He's talking about getting married and I still feel this big space between us and not mention the fact he'll most likely be immpotent in the next few years and my sex life will be nill as well, I can't WAIT! "Sigh", I don't know what to do with him. He definatley is being pressued by his mother to get married and I sure as hell hope that is not his reason for wanting to do this. Is he just going to use me as a front for his gay lifestyle and he wont tell the truth or am I just smarter than the average bear and I see this sh*t comming in a few years like..."hunny I'm gay and I just realized it, I was in denial". I also tend to get on subjects and read into things too much. I've heard that the premature ejaculation could be caused by depression as well but he doesn't seem "depressed" he is a very happy person lot of the time but then he'll get down if his life is not so exciting and things slow down or get "boaring". Is the writting on the wall and he is totally gay, is he depressed, or is he telling the truth? What do I do with him?
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gladiator |
02-23-2006 @ 11:14 AM
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hey...
i posted an answer to this in the other thread whcih you posted!
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FatGirlSlim81 |
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03-01-2006 @ 6:40 AM
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Give the poor man a break. Premature ejaculation doesn't mean he's gay! I'm not surprised he gets angry.
Why don't u do some research on "The Squeeze technique" and give that a go? If u can talk to him in an understanding way and not accuse him of being gay he will more likely respond in a positive way(no pun intended!) A lot of men suffer unnecessarily because they never learnt the art(presumably)
Good luck.
Nothing tastes as good as being slim feels.
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spinny |
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03-05-2006 @ 2:01 PM
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omg you think your bloke is gay all because he ejaculates to soon. honey i know gay men that last longer then my self and im feamale. so no it does not mean that he is gay, all my x's never lasted long if i was lucky but i did have one that had this problem and FatGirlSlim81 is right about the squeeze thing,. done right it can stop him comming soon. or you can get a penis ring from sex shops that also prolongs a man from comming so fast, but then you have to ask your bloke to if he like to were it first.
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kato |
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03-13-2006 @ 10:30 AM
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you cannot assume that because your bf climaxes a tad early is b/c he is gay - on what grounds do you think that>>
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mrMark |
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04-22-2006 @ 11:21 PM
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"Premature ejaculation" means different things to different people. How long is it taking him to come?
Premature ejaculation affects more people that you might expect - about 30-40% of men - and it is almost always caused by psychological problems. Sufferers do not recognise the "point of inevitability". This is a sensation that occurs just a few moments before ejaculation. Men who don't suffer from premature ejaculation are able to recognise this sensation and either stop or change stimulation until the urgency has subsided.
There are some common techniques to work around it, such as "squeeze", "distraction" and "stop-and-start".
Occasionally the cause for premature ejaculation may be physiological such as a urinary tract or prostate infection - a GP can organise can test for this and should also be able to refer to some counselling.
If you think your partner may suffer depression then you should try to get him to some professional help. Google for "depression screening test" and you will find a test he can take that will test for presence of depressive symptoms.
You have to realise that this issue is probably embarrassing for him and he probably feels bad about it but you need to confront it especially if you're dissatisfied.
This message was edited by mrMark on 4-22-06 @ 11:38 PM
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carlb |
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04-27-2006 @ 11:01 AM
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You think that because he comes early that he is gay - ha-low?? Not at all. Maybe he just lacks experience love, thats my tip. K
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presley |
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05-23-2006 @ 5:57 AM
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I think you need to have A serious talk to him especially if your going to get married, Make sure it's what he wants coz you don't want to marry someone just coz of pressure from his mother.
Is he stressed at work & not told you?
It could be anything that's on his mind triggering this problem.
Try talking calmly to him & say you can't marry until you know one way or another what's wrong.
MrMark - Are you A doc as you seem v.knowledgable?
Take care AstonMartin, hope you get it sorted!!
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waffk |
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01-29-2007 @ 10:48 AM
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IVE GOT THE OPPOSTE WHERE I CANT MAKE MY GIRLFRIEND CUM WHAT DO I DO?
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swift |
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03-14-2007 @ 2:21 PM
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At the start of this post the person think that her bfriend is gay cause he comes early - aw come on!!! As if.
For goodness sake, there a million and two ways to stop coming early with the obvious being to STOP!! Or - what you would need to do is take your TIME.
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